Almost everyone who books with us for the first time types a message, deletes it, types it again and then waits a long time before pressing send. That hesitation is completely normal, and it usually has less to do with desire than with not knowing the procedure. Nobody wants to say the wrong thing, ask a naive question, or discover at the door that there was a convention everyone else knew about.
So here is the procedure, from first thought to last goodbye. None of it is complicated, and most of it comes down to the same principle that governs any good evening between two adults: say what you want clearly, respect what the other person has said clearly, and let the rest take care of itself.
Before you write: decide three things
You do not need to know much to book, but three decisions make the first message easy.
- Where. The name of your hotel, or the street and nearest bridge if you are in a flat. A room number is not needed yet.
- When. A specific time works best. "As soon as possible" is also a perfectly good answer.
- How long. For a first erotic massage, one hour is the usual choice and covers the full arc of any service. Choose two if you are nervous; the extra time lets the first part be slower.
Optional but helpful: which service, and whether you have a woman in mind. If you have not decided, that is fine. The erotic oil massage is the gentlest introduction, and describing the mood you are after works just as well as choosing from a list.
The booking message, more or less word for word
There is no password and no special vocabulary. A first message that gets a quick, useful reply looks something like this: "Hello, I am staying at a hotel on the Singel. I would like an erotic oil massage for one hour at ten tonight. I have not booked before. I will pay by card." That is all.
Within about ten minutes you receive a reply naming a woman and an arrival window. If you asked for a particular woman from the roster of forty-five, the reply says yes or offers a close alternative. You can ask any question before confirming. People ask whether they need to shower, what to wear, whether the hotel will mind, what happens if they feel shy. Every one of those is a good question, and the answers come in plain language.
A few things do not belong in the message. There is no need to haggle; the rate is published and does not move. There is no need to send photographs of yourself or personal details beyond the booking. And there is no need to describe anything graphic. The service names were written precisely so that nobody has to.
Getting the room ready in ten minutes
Once the booking is confirmed you have twenty to thirty minutes while she crosses the city. That is plenty.
- Shower. This is the single most appreciated courtesy. Warm water also relaxes you before she arrives.
- Warmth. Turn the heating up slightly. A room beside an Amsterdam canal feels cooler to bare skin than to a dressed body.
- Light. Switch off the overhead light and leave one lamp on. Candles are unnecessary, and hotel smoke alarms rarely share anyone's sense of romance.
- The bed. Clear it of luggage, laptops and trays. She will lay her own towels or sheet over the hotel linen.
- Payment. Have cash, card or your crypto wallet ready, whichever you named, so the doorway moment is brief.
- Phone. Keep it within reach until she messages for your room number, then put it on silent somewhere out of sight.
What to wear is up to you. A bathrobe is the most common choice and saves both of you a slightly comic moment with shoelaces. Ordinary clothes are equally fine.
The knock and the first five minutes
She messages a few minutes before arriving to ask for the room number. Then comes the knock, which for most first-time guests is the peak of the nerves, and usually the end of them too.
The first minute is simple. You open the door, she comes in, and the payment is handled straight away so that money is not hanging over the hour. After that there is a short conversation, not an interview, just enough to hear how your day has been, whether anything hurts, and whether there is anything you would like her to know. This is the right moment to mention a sore shoulder, a ticklish spot, or the fact that you are a little nervous. Saying so helps. A skilled practitioner will slow her pace accordingly, and the admission usually makes you relax.
While she sets up, laying towels, warming the oil and adjusting the light, you can finish undressing and lie down. Most sessions begin face down, which conveniently removes any pressure to make conversation.
First erotic massage etiquette, once the oil is warm
The rules of conduct during the session itself are few, and they are the same ones a considerate person would guess.
Communicate simply. If the pressure is too firm, the room too cold or a position uncomfortable, say so in a few words. Feedback is welcome and makes the hour better. Long running commentary is not needed.
Treat agreed limits as settled. What the service includes was defined before she travelled. Her boundaries are hers, and the session is not a place to renegotiate them. Trying to push past them is the one thing that reliably spoils an evening.
Let her lead. The structure of the session, when to turn over, how the pace changes, is her craft. The best hours happen when guests stop trying to steer and simply respond.
No photos, no recordings. This applies without exception and is as much for your privacy as hers.
Go easy on the drinks. A glass of wine beforehand is fine. Arriving at the session too drunk to feel much of it is a waste of your money and her skill.
Keep the clock in her hands. She will keep track of the time so you do not have to. If you would like to extend, ask during the hour; if she is free, another hour is added at the same rate.
Language, and saying what you mean
Every woman on the roster speaks English, and most guests assume that settles the matter. It helps, though, to relax in the language you actually think in. Seven of the forty-five speak French, six speak Spanish and six Russian, while Italian, Portuguese, Dutch, Ukrainian and Romanian are all covered too. If English is your second language, name your first one when you book and we will try to send a woman who shares it. Small requests such as "a little softer" or "slower, please" come out far more easily when nobody is translating them in their head first.
Whatever the language, keep requests short and concrete. Name the thing rather than the feeling around it: "less pressure on the lower back" is useful, while a long apology before asking for it only delays the answer. She would much rather hear one clear sentence in the first ten minutes than spend the next fifty guessing.
What to do with the nerves
Nerves before a first erotic massage tend to come from three worries: that you will do something embarrassing, that your body will not respond as you expect, or that you will not know what to do with your hands. The honest answer to all three is that she has seen it before and it does not matter. Women on our roster work with first-timers regularly, and a guest who is shy, quiet or unexpectedly emotional is not unusual. Bodies behave unpredictably under relaxation. None of it changes how the session goes or how you will be treated.
A practical trick helps: concentrate on your breathing during the first ten minutes. Slow breath signals the rest of your body that it is safe to let go, and by the time the massage turns more sensual you will usually have stopped thinking about etiquette altogether.
Afterwards
When the session ends, she gives you a moment. There is no rush to jump up; lying still for a minute is part of the experience. She then packs away the towels and oil, and you are welcome to shower first or after she has left. A simple thank you is all the ceremony required. If you enjoyed it and want to book the same woman again, note her name; next time you can lead your message with it.
Her towels leave in her bag, the visit never touches your hotel bill, and the only record is the thread on your own phone, which you can keep or delete as you prefer.
First-time mistakes worth avoiding
- Booking a very short window before a dinner reservation, and spending the hour watching the clock.
- Waiting until she arrives to ask questions that could have been answered in the thread.
- Assuming the service includes something it does not. If you are unsure, ask before confirming.
- Paying anyone in advance. We never ask for a deposit or a transfer, so any request for one did not come from us.
- Forgetting to mention a Schiphol hotel. Airport bookings are arranged individually and need the word Schiphol in the first line.
Everything else, the rate, the payment methods and the length options, is summarised on the frequently asked questions page. For the rest, the thread is always open and nobody minds a naive question, which is exactly the point of asking it before the knock.