Most guests are perfectly articulate at work, fluent at dinner and entirely capable of sending back an overcooked steak. Then a woman with warm oil on her hands asks is that good? and they answer mm, whatever the truth happens to be. Knowing how to tell an erotic masseuse what you like is a small skill with an outsized reward, because the gap between a pleasant hour and a remarkable one is very often a single sentence nobody said. Here is how to say it, when, and in how few words.
Start in the thread, not on the bed
The easiest moment to state a preference is before anyone has undressed. The booking message already carries the essentials: where, when, how long and which service. Add one short line about the kind of hour you want and she arrives prepared instead of guessing. Firm on the back, slow afterwards is a perfectly good line. So is first time, gentle please, or long flight, shoulders wrecked. Nobody expects poetry, and a named woman is still confirmed within roughly ten minutes.
The thread is also the proper place for anything about the content of the session. Requests about what the hour includes belong in writing before she sets out, where they can be answered calmly. If you are unsure which format matches what you have in mind, our four styles compared will help you put a name to it.
The first five minutes
When she arrives there is usually a brief conversation while she spreads her towels and warms the oil. Use it. This is where the practical details belong: the shoulder you slept on badly, the knee that dislikes being bent, the spot on your ribs so ticklish it makes you kick. Mention the temperature if the room feels cool, and whether you would like music or silence. She would rather hear it now than discover it with her hands.
How to tell an erotic masseuse what you like, mid-session
Feedback during the hour works best when it is short, specific and phrased as a wish. Compare these:
- That's too hard works, but a bit softer there works better, because it tells her what to do rather than what to stop doing.
- More of that is one of the most useful phrases in any language. It is precise, it is flattering, and she will know exactly what you mean.
- Slower is a complete sentence. So is stay there.
- A hum of approval or a long exhale is a signal she reads constantly. You do not need to narrate.
What tends to fall flat is a lengthy technical request halfway through, mumbled face down into a pillow, or a running commentary on every stroke. Say the thing, then let her work.
Asking for firmer, softer, slower
Pressure and pace are the two dials guests adjust most, and neither request offends. Women on the roster move between genuine muscle work and the lightest skin contact inside a single hour, so a guest who wants more depth on the back and more lightness later is asking for something they do every night. The only real mistake is enduring pressure that hurts because you are too polite to mention it. Discomfort pulls a body out of relaxation, and relaxation is what everything else in an erotic oil massage is built on.
When the language is not shared
English is common ground for every woman here, and many add a second or third language. If these things would come easier in your own tongue, choose accordingly: several women speak French, a handful Spanish or Portuguese, and Cricket, who lives in the centre, is Dutch. Beyond words, hands help. A light touch on her wrist slows her down; pointing at a shoulder says here in every language on earth.
What not to ask for mid-hour
Changes of pace and pressure are welcome at any point. Changes to what the booking includes belong to a different category. If something was not agreed in the thread, the middle of the session is not the moment to raise it, and pressing after a no only ends the evening sooner. Our note on touching during the hour explains why that written agreement carries so much weight. If you realise halfway through that a different format would have suited you better, tell her at the end and book that one next time.
Saying it afterwards
A good hour deserves a sentence too. Tell her what landed: the long strokes on your legs, the quiet, the way she read your mood. This is not flattery for its own sake. It is information she carries into your next booking if you ask for her again, and it gives her the satisfaction of knowing her choices were noticed. If something missed, say that kindly as well. Next time, a little lighter on the neck is useful; silence followed by a vague complaint is not.
Why the effort pays off
Guests who speak up receive a massage shaped around their own body and not a generic one. The women at your door are skilled at reading tension, breath and small movements, but nobody reads minds, and one well-timed word saves ten minutes of trial and error. If nerves are what keeps you quiet, the page for first-time guests has more on getting through the opening minutes, and everything after them tends to fall into place. Speak plainly, speak briefly, and let her make something of it. Every word of it is included in the €180.